Where do you see yourself in 1/3/5/10 years?

Whenever I hear the question 'Where do you see yourself in X (usually an odd number, unless it's a nice number like 10) years?', my head voice goes:

Congratulation! 

You just hit my top most hated question for an interview! 

I got it several times during my job search days last year, and memorably once with this particular hiring manager of a reputable MNC. I don't think she liked me right from the beginning, cos I certainly didn't. She was so unbelievably full of herself, folding her arms, sizing up people  from the corner of her eyes and all. 

So when that 'WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN 5 YEARS' question came along, I just couldn't take it anymore. 

I looked at her - I think my disdain for her professionalism (or lack of) was rather evident as this point - and said, "If you are really looking for a honest answer from me, I would have to say I really have no idea. Right now I am a fresh graduate, I still have so much to learn about the job and the industry, let alone discovering my forte and potential. I -" 

"Alright in that case, then I don't think this role is very suitable for you", she said, cutting me off mid-sentence. 

Seriously, she went through a formal education on Human Resources Management (well that is an assumption ofc) and THIS was the best she could do?! 

Alright I GET IT. She might have wanted to see if I was a realistic yet ambitious person, and to judge if THAT level of ambition was appropriate to the role. But asking that question was just downright meaningless. 

First of all, the candidate would never have the full information to give you either an honest or meaning answer. How was I supposed to know what I would be doing unless I actually start doing the job? It's like everyone perceive the task of being a teacher is to teach, but the truth is Singapore teachers spend almost an equal amount of time doing paper works. So was she asking me to give her an summary of my career plan based on my fresh-grad understanding of the job?

Second of all, let's say I actually said boring things like "I plan to get my basic skills and knowledge familiarized enough for the first year. For the next two years, I would aim to challenge myself by moving beyond my stipulated responsibilities and be more involved in the decision-making process. Next I would....(insert vague-sounding bullshit that has no basis)". Would she then tailor the progression of that role to my answer? Well yes, only if I am that one (or 10) person in the world who can do that particular job. So if she's not going to do that, wouldn't it be more meaningful for both of us if she were to tell me honestly what the company has in plan for the role that I was applying for? 

To be honest, if I were a hiring manager (and I was actually forced to ask this question) and someone actually answers with a full elaborated x-years plan, I would offer him/her an agreement right on the spot based on exactly what he/she just said - nothing less nothing more. I can be 100% sure that it would make them doubt their answers RIGHT AWAY. 

Why?

COS NO FUCKING PERSON CAN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT TO DO IN THE FUTURE UNLESS THEY ARE JUST FUCKING BORING! I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT I FEEL LIKE EATING TOMORROW, AND YOU ARE ASKING ME MY PLAN FOR 365 x X DAYS?!

ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR FUCKING MIND?

All in all, HR managers who ask that question give me this impression that they are just too lazy to do their job - which is fundamentally to use their professional eye to sieve out traits in the candidates that would be a good fit for the role and also the company. These traits could not be derived from their resume, nor by a mere one-liner question like that.

To cap things off, here's a video by Anna (yes you are right, we are on first name basis. If you count how much of my life was spent listening to her) on the same fucking question. UGH.

Don't Tell Me Who I Ought To Be

You are always gonna judge me

Based on your prior perception and experience with people in your life whom you deem as the same type as me

Cos it’s just so convenient isn't it

Not having to subject yourself to the lengthy process of chartering into the unknown territory that is my personality, character, and soul

where you will have to see me as a stand-alone individual 

So you’ve already decided right from the beginning

That I shall never be worthy of you embarking on such laborious journey just to reach a conclusion of whether you will like me as a person  

It’s like you take one look at me

interact with me for an hour

and then proceed to file me into your mind as followed

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• Open “People (C:)” drive

• Select a common folder: “Colleagues/Schoolmates/Acquaintances/Friend’s friend/etc.”

• Select the corresponding folders and subsequent subfolders for further profiling  “Gender->Age->Race->Religion->Nationality->Education Background->etc.”

• Finally, when you reach the “Type” folder, scroll down the list and drop my file into the “Materialistic” folder, and if you have extra time, quickly copy my file and paste it into some other folders such as “Will Do Anything For Money/Shallow/Arrogant/etc.”

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So can you imagine how much effort it will take if you were to change your mind and think 

“Hey, let me know this person as a brand new individual instead”??

You will have to:

• Locate ALL the folders that my files are present in
• Evaluate again if it’s still the right location (i.e. still true to what you’ve learnt of me)
• Delete or move my files to other folders based on your conclusion from previous step
• If no appropriate folder is found, you actually have to RIGHT CLICK ON EMPTY SPACE -> SELECT ‘NEW’ -> SELECT ’NEW FOLDER’ AND THEN DROP MY FOLDERS IN

 Ohmygod.

How tedious right.

But you know what

I’m actually not very bothered with whatever folder you placed me in

What I am NOT okay with is people 

RIGHT CLICKING ON MY FILE 

SELECT “PROPERTIES” 

 GO TO “DETAILS” TAB

AND DELETING MY NAME AND ADDING IN THEIRS UNDER THE “AUTHORS” VALUE

In other words

People can have every perceptions of me for all they want to

But don’t, henceforth, expect me to start behaving according to the way you have categorized me

Because I can safely tell you
your perception is not

 -and will never be-

the truth about me
You just have no idea 

SILKAIR screwed it up again and again and again

Religion teaches us to be okay with people fucking around with us.

Even so, there IS still a limit to it.

And besides, when was I ever religious?

But it's not too rude a compliant isn't it?

I mean, given they screwed up NOT ONCE NOT TWICE BUT FREAKING THRICE for us just in this quarter alone. 

And now I have to biologically control my eyeballs from rolling whenever people mention Singapore airlines and quality in the same sentence.

As the email said, I actually FORGOT about all the unpleasantry after my own flight until the saga repeats again for my mum recently. 

One simply does not accidentally off her bitch mode TWICE.

So yup Silkair, clock is ticking for you and I am not kind anymore.

Yea I Turn 23

So hey, I've turned 23 on last Friday and I was once again, overwhelmed with surprise and gracefulness by the loves I was showered with, despite being a rather difficult person to love.

I think I've grown so much in the passed one year, in fact I could easily say it was one of the most. I lost many but I've gained more in return.

One of the most precious thing I've learnt this year is letting go. To let go is to stay true and be brave for yourself. I've yet to master it of course, but I'm glad I've at least started somewhere.

This was me on my birthday last year in Berlin, for a cosy dinner with my dearest friend in a super home-liked restaurant tucked in a dark alley.

How lucky I am, to be surrounded by my loved ones and laughters for all my birthdays.  And ofc, red wine as well. 

Thank you all for loving me. It makes me want to become a better person just for you.

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On a side note, I've also learnt to be a rude bitch to people who dont deserve kindness and politeness at all and what could better illustrate this than an incident that had happened ytd. 

 

So this random guy got my number somewhere and sent me a video out of the blue. I didn't download that video cos I was nearing my data usage limit (First World Problem I know) so I just wanted to check if it's really someone I know.

Mum would have said I shouldn't have wasted my time talking to him at all, but I really cant stand the thought of these fucktards living around and trying to spread their foulness. After I sent my last msg and blocked him, I panicked for a second and thought what if he had really genuinely sent to the wrong number by mistake (though he's still poor in his logical thinking). So I downloaded the video after connecting to wifi (I. .. I don't know I just feel that I have to explain this to show that my previously mentioned FWP is true) and BINGO it was a random movie clip of an old man humping some naked statues. 

God, these fucktards. 

They dont even deserved to have their number censored here.